Again and again I get questions about the right place, the right topic for a conversation, how to read flirt signals, and a score of other things that can go wrong on the first date. Of course there is a lot that can and will go wrong, and for most of these things there is of course an answer or a good and proper solution. Because the first date is so complex and so much can go wrong, it is impossible to prepare perfectly for a specific date just by visiting websites such as this one, or buying books and videos. If you are preparing for your first true date and are looking for quick solutions, you will have no success.
So, what can you do? The answer is: practice, practice and still more practice! Only practice makes the master, who will then be prepared so well on his first date that very little will not go quite as planned. With enough experience to have the right answer for every problem that might arise, the first date will most probably not end badly.
This is of course an unpleasant message, because everybody wants a quick solution to his (dating) problems.
But if such a solution would really exist, there wouldn’t be a few thousand people a day reading this blog and trying to keep their first dates under control. Having a date is just like playing the piano: you can read a lot about it, you can learn to read music, and you can read through whole libraries about how playing the piano is done, but sitting with all this knowledge on a stool at a grand piano and trying to play even a short piece by Chopin, will simply not work. Treating women correct and effectively is just the same.
The conversion from a man who has no success with women to the perfect man for the first date is something that may extend over months or even years. Embarking on this journey is not only a great challenge, but a most interesting trip with a destination any man can arrive at; its when and how just depends on motivation and a sufficiently strong will. The reward at the end is not only a more exciting and beautiful life with women, but you will have more success in all other walks of life. Because a person which is successful with women automatically has a lot more opportunities and good experiences in life.