Everybody knows the rules for dating in the U.S.: You go on three dates – first meeting, dinner, cinema, sex on the third date. That’s it. Sounds easy, right? It is – and millions of people go on dates like this. Most of them fail.
The reason for failing is quite obvious: The dating situation puts a lot of pressure on both and there is no more room for a more natural development of the situation. Since everybody knows that a date is supposed to lead in one direction only, men and women are forced to get to some kind of decision: Is he/she is the right one for me? Do we have to kiss at the end of the date?
So all that is left is lots of pressure, uncertainty and no fun at all – making a date in the “traditional” sense the worst environment a man and a woman can have to check out if they like each other. How can a “natural” feeling of romance grow in such an unnatural situation?!
Obviously there is only one rule for dating: Don’t go on a “date”! Never call it a date, never make it look like an old fashioned date and never act like you are on a date. And here is the only answer if the other party ask “Now is this a date?” You: “A date? Are you crazy? I don’t believe in dating!”
So here’s the new framework for everything you might have thought about as a date before:
We just do something together – no more sitting in a restaurant only: Sports, shopping, a walk in the park, grooming the dog – almost anything that goes remotely under “fun activity” (It is fun, because you make it fun!)
We show our qualities as men or women as clearly as possible while having fun and doing something together.
The man leads and always knows what to do next, where to go next, what is the next step. He takes her on a mini-adventure – even if this adventure is nothing but shopping for dog food. He knows when to take her hand and when to kiss her for the first time – and he actually does that exactly at the right time.
The traditional date sets people up for failure because it doesn’t leave any room for a natural development of romance and attraction. Having dinner and leaving the woman in the position of the interviewer and the man as the interviewee, who gets his one chance to try very hard to position himself in a positive light so she might not get a bad impression and join him for another evening of boredom – but free food – is bound for failure.
No matter where you live in the world – your country has very specific dating rules that are somewhat similar to the ones in the U.S. It is your job to identify them and stop dating like that! The new dating rules leave you in a completely new position: Not only is the date more fun, but the chances for success are infinitely higher!