We know those cool blokes standing there with sunglasses or at least that cool evil eye, a cigarette in their mouth, one hand in the pocket of their trousers types from films and television. Cool. This is obviously something attractive, and women find it quite cool. But here is the bad news for 99% of all men: this scheme does not work for you! Why not? Because this coolness which combines both that perfect look and bad-boy lifestyle is not available to most men. What can be done then?
It is quite easy: We men have to forget everything that has to do with being “cool” and make ourselves attractive according to our real conditions, so that no woman will be able to say “no” any more. It’s not that difficult, because it is not only those cool dudes that are found attractive, but all those who meet the points indicated in What Women Really Want. How this finally turns out in the individual is a very personal thing, but as said, being “cool” mostly leads men into embarrassing situations rather than to having success with women.
Because women have a 7th sense for men who are trying to act up on them, and this is particularly true for those blokes who are playing a role that doesn’t suit them. Quite often we hear women saying that what they are looking for, is a man who is “just himself”, and these words are not simply idle talk. A woman can’t obviously give you clear advice about what exactly this means for her, but you will fortunately find enough info on this subject here on my blog.
So, if cool is rather embarrassing, what can you do so in order to appear authentic and attractive?
Something that most men find incredibly difficult to do, but which is actually incredibly easy, is just to smile! Have fun! Don’t take yourself too seriously! This way you will be much closer to your “real” self than by using a “cool” scheme uncovered by women in just a few seconds, and which they consider really awful.
The path to her heart, her bed or any other domain of a woman is not by way of coolness and a dirty look which you believe to be particularly attractive. Quite the contrary. A man with a sense of humour is so much more attractive: women look for men with a sense of humour. The way this works has been already described in detail in Having Fun on the First Date.