You have probably been working on trust in your relationship since the beginning. Building trust is a step by step process and it doesn’t come as light task!
Trust in a relationship is huge, and when trust is abundant happiness is also abundant. But unfortunately when there is a lack of trust or no trust in the relationship the exact opposite can be true. Jealousy, suspicion, and fights can come out of mistrust.
The other unfortunate thing is that trust can be broken instantly while trust is only gained over time. If you cheat, lie to, or hurt your partner in someway that trust can vanish right now. And you may be left wondering how to regain their trust in the relationship.
By understanding the simple concept of trust needs to be built upon you can start building your blocks right away.
First let the person know why they have a right to not trust you. Validating their feelings and owning up to your mistakes will go a long way in allowing them to start the process of trying to trust you. On the other hand, if you deny what you have done and make them feel bad for losing trust in you then you will surely be in for a long battle.
After you have kicked off building their trust towards you follow a few simple rules.
1. Stay honest.
Don’t lie about anything anymore – big or small. Even if you lie about something that you consider pointless they will still consider it a lie! Even white lies are lies. Telling them something to spare their feelings is doing no good for you or their trust in the end. Constructive criticism will work better at this point than lying will.
2. Be Patient
Don’t expect them to trust you completely tomorrow. You may be asked questions that make you feel as though they don’t trust you, but that’s exactly why they are asking them!
For instance if you cheated on your partner and they are now asking you who you were with and why you were with them answer the question. You should have nothing to hide and you are just validating the fact that they have nothing to worry about. The questions should die down as trust begins to re-enter the relationship, but there is no time-frame that you can put on it. Have patience.
3. Keep your actions in line with your words.
Your words are not the only thing your partner will be watching from now on. Your actions will speak louder than you words always!
So if you say that you are interested in what they are talking about then show interest. If you say you are not interested in that woman down that street then don’t stare at her when you think your partner is not looking.
Body language accounts for about 90% of all language! So remember that and keep your body language in line with your words otherwise you are going to have one hell of a time rebuilding that trust even if you say all the right things and have all the patience in the world!
Follow these 3 steps until you have regained their trust. It may be a long road but if you are in it for the long-haul then that won’t matter. It will be worth it in the end. Besides you really should have nothing to hide anymore if you are being honest, right?